Anyway, so the exceedingly beautiful host described a scenario; a young lady has been dating a rich investment banker she met through her aunty for three years. However, there's no real connection. The guy does not give her butterflies. In short, he's incapable of connecting emotionally. Remember, he's rich though. So the thrill is still there somehow. In trips to Paris and flamboyant living. Yes hunnay! Lmao. Falz nicknamed the rich guy Bankole.
On the other hand is Jimi who she met at the gym. See, Jimi ticks the right boxes emotionally. He knows sweet words to say to make her feel oh-so-good. She absolutely loves all her conversations with Jimi. The problem however, is, Jimi is basic. Basic being an euphemism for poor. That's right. He's just a regular guy.
So the host asked her three guests what they think, and who the lady should pick. It was quite an interesting conversation, and funny too. I cringed a little bit at the obsession of the host with "financial security" a.k.a money. However, I agreed with everyone. I mean, they all defended their points very well. I really think financial security was used wrongly though, because financial security is very different from flamboyance or extravagance. Financial security is really just that, financial security. In fact, you can make millions and not be financially secure. Financial security can deserve its own discussion entirely. Lol. But for the purpose of this discussion, these ladies and gentlemen implied financial security as RICH. As in, very rich. I am just going to explain what each person said and inject my own thoughts wherever possible.
The host: Like I said, she's a fine girl, but I didn't like what was coming out of her mouth. I disagreed with her the most. She had no real reason for being team Bankole. It was just about money, money, money. Forgetting that wealth can be fleeting and very immaterial in the long run. She mentioned something about wanting a man that can afford the Lekki life yidi yada. I don't blame the babe. If I had to live in Lagos, guess where I would want to live too. Yeah, you guessed right, Lekki. lmao.
Noble: Original Igbo man!! haha. He was team Bankole, but not for reasons you might think. I am not exactly team Bankole, but I promise you Noble made the strongest and most cogent points. He said love is never enough, and you can't run a marriage on butterflies. Either way, the butterflies WILL disappear. You want to doubt me? Ask my eight something year old grandparents if they have any silly butterflies. Nuh uh. Noble also said something that struck a chord; there will always be someone else that brings sparks. Even after you marry, you will always find that person that might create sparks. Instead of indulging them and thereby emotionally cheating on your husband, how about you create sparks with you partner too. Noble said Jimi was a terrible choice because love will not turn on generator. Love will not pay for DSTV. He said, "Have you ever cried in a Rolls Royce? It feels even better" Ha! Money is good my people. The host replied that Bankole is incapable of emotions. Thus, Gbemi's point was spot on.
Gbemi: she was team none. According to her, the young lady can find someone who fits both bills: rich and butterflies-inducing love. Honestly eh, this butterfly thing is too overrated. I have blogged about it before, and let me reiterate; I am too pragmatic to dwell too much in this butterfly thing. Nuh uh. Anyway, Gbemi is all about the cash ohh. After a little bit of humble brag, she explained that there's nothing she wants that she can't buy herself so why should she "manage" with a guy. Gbemi further said there are two types of kids in this Lagos, the ones that say "My name is Kanyinsola" she imitated a sluggish kid, and the ones that say "My name is Kanyisola" she said sharply. "The difference is in the schools they attend. You have to send your child to a correct school, and you would need money for that." She was spot on there though. You need your kids to be smart and exposed and sophisticated. You need money for that. Gbemi cited the example of her friend that had a choice between a man that makes 12m per annum and another that made 2m per annum (in Naira). The friend chose the former.
Falz: I didn't know this jester was such a romantic. Ha. He kept vouching for Jimi. And he found it ludicrous that the others attached so much importance to money. Which I found weird, since he grew up with and in a lot of money. Don't fall for the fake accent lol. Gists have it that he grew up really wealthy. Duhh, he's Falana's son, so I believe the gists. Lol. Anyway, watch the video yourself, it was quite interesting.
As for me, team who am I?
It's a tough one because I think the lady is being greedy. First, why has she been in a relationship she doesn't fancy for three whole years? And what's to say Jimi is actually for real? I mean yeah, he's all sweet now, but will he be in the long run? Money is not really the most important thing for me though. But I wouldn't judge anyone who fancies money above all else. The most important thing is to have the fundamentals YOU desire. Financial stability matters to me more than you just throwing around cash. Like Gbemi, I am beginning to get irritated with this "potential" talk. Forget story, what do you have going on for you NOW? Can I make sacrifices for you, and you me? When the love starts fading, and it will, are we FRIENDS? As in BESTFRIENDS? Do I enjoy your company? When tragedy strikes, and it WILL, am I ready to take on challenges with you? Can I put up with your crazy, stupid family? And you, with mine? Do we have the same grounding principles to raise our children with? Are you as fiercely loyal as I am? And most importantly, can I TRUST you to have my back no matter what?
So if I were to pick of the two, I would find out who Loves the Lord more and answers a positive for all the questions I asked above. That, is team who I am.
Love,
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I actually watched this yesterday. I'm not going to comment on the topic itself, but rather on the host.
ReplyDeleteI found her quite rude, especially to Falz. Seemed to me like she was quite dismissive of his points. Was I the only one who noticed that? I don't think she did a good job as a moderator/host.
LOL. On a second look(thought), I think she really was slightly dismissive of his point of view. But it may be that they really are just good friends, and it was all in good spirit (a joke).
DeleteThanks dear, for stopping by :-)