Happy Thanksgiving + A Little Chit Chat

I have been seeing many people in Nigeria and everywhere else celebrating Thanksgiving. I have also seen others complain about such people copying traditions from the West. I am not too bogged down (and you shouldn't be too) about people copying an attitude of gratitude. It's Thanksgiving after all. Who does not have a reason to be thankful? So yeah, I get that. However, I really wish that instead of Nigerians copying EVERYTHING, why not cherish and celebrate our own traditions? Such that the whole world knows and recognizes us for these customs and traditions. It wouldn't be so hurtful if Nigeria was not actually a country RICH with beautiful culture and tradition. It is so vast and diverse, you would wonder why Nigerians abandon all of their uniqueness only to copy some other nations'. Speaking of copying, can we also try not copy the bad with the good? Thanks. I am not surprised though. This is a country where people take immense pride in being unable to speak their local languages. Such a confusing phenomenon. We take all the pain to learn  foreign languages like French, Spanish, German, maybe even Chinese (and boy are these languages tough), but we selectively OPT to not understand local languages spoken around us 24/7. I understand that Yoruba, Igbo and co may not give you an edge on the job market, but for the most part, learning these languages is actually painless for the folks in Nigeria.

Take me for example. I grew up speaking English to my parents and siblings (I still speak English to them). I went to a school where our Principals reinforced the importance of Queens English. Pffttt, vernacular was frowned upon anyway. Somehow though, without EVER consciously learning, I can communicate EFFECTIVELY in my local dialect, Yoruba. While I did not speak much of it as a child, I heard it in church; I heard my parents speak it to each other; I heard my aunties and uncles speak it; I heard the local pepper grinder speak it; I heard my mother negotiate in it with the local butcher; and so on and so forth. It was therefore painless and easy. French, on the other hand. Goodness gracious. I have been at it (on and off) for over a year now. Maybe I'll say my name and ask some flimsy question, like where the restaurant is. For the most part, it's been tough. It is therefore really surprising that people in Nigeria would rather the difficult languages than the easy ones. Enough patriotism for the day.

What am I thankful for?

It's an incredibly long list. I am thankful for salvation. That despite my shortcomings, God found it worthy to bestow upon me his AMAZING grace. Can you imagine if it was about us and our handiwork? I saw a picture TD Jakes posted with Don Lemon. Apparently, Don Lemon had gone to his church. Now we all know Don Lemon is gay. Can you believe that people, "Christians" were angry with TD Jakes for letting a "sinner" like Don Lemon into his church. People were like "oh he's gay. How could you Bishop? You even took a PICTURE with him? What is a gay man doing in church?" AHHH. Who the heck do you think you are to say who can or cannot go before God? HA! Who are we Christians and what monsters are we becoming? You really think you are worth it all, huh? That you are the big deal? Ok oooh.

I am also thankful for family. You knew this was coming though. Haha. God has colored my life with the most amazing people, and I can't believe how blessed I am to call them family. I think that my social media accounts must be irritating to people on birthdays of my loved ones, because I don't hesitate to scream their amazing-ness from the rooftops. Haha. So forgive me for being "extra", I just feel an immense sense of gratitude always to know that although life may suck sometimes, I have got the best people to go through life with.

I am thankful for all my friends, tehehe. I love them to pieces. Maybe I don't show it enough to them, but I am glad to have them in my life and to be in theirs.

I am thankful for my life and the entire journey so far, and what is to come. I am thankful for social media, for good people, for brownies, red velvet, and for Haagen Dazs. I am thankful for....look the list is endless. Today might be about gratitude, but it also is about eating and celebrating, which is exactly what I am off to do!

Now, life may not be perfect for you (to tell you the truth, it's perfect for no one) or this thanksgiving is just a reminder of everything that sucks. I'm sorry about that, but I also know only a few things gladden the heart more than counting your blessings.

Have a peaceful, safe, and blessed thanksgiving!



Friday Reflections

1.) Why have the richest Muslim countries not taken in any Syrian refugee?

2.) Charlie Sheen has slept with TWO HUNDRED women post diagnosis. TWO HUNDRED!

3.) You guys are taking the sexual liberation thing a little too far.

4.) Oh Vera, I loved her post on why she and her husband, Igwe decided to have a baby.

5.) How CNN is able to flog ONE issue for several hours is beyond me. Goodness gracious, every night since the Paris attack, that's all they talk about; for long stretch of hours.

6.)Well, at least I get two hours of the Don Lemon Tonight show. hehe. Love the dude and his work ethics.

7.) Look, do not let these bloody-gutless-cowards aka terrorists fool you into fear or submission. Mark Zuckerberg, in a post the other day mentioned how despite all the crazy things going on in the world, we are really at our safest at any point in history.

8.) Yup! Lowest murders, terrors etc.

9.) Meanwhile, Zuckerberg and his wife...each time I log on to Facebook, I feel like they're giving away another 50 million DOLLARS. I just keep wondering how much they have left lol if they keep giving it all away. Then I remember Luke 6:38.

10.) “He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg.” --A Chinese proverb I learnt from Vera's blog.

11.) I LOVE the Internet. woohoooo *screaming from the rooftops*

12.)  Yesterday, I learnt an important distinction between "calling" and "purpose".

13.) Although I have a lot of stuff to work on, I'm ignoring them ALL tonight and just taking a break to catch up on all the missed episodes of my shows. Should be fun :-))))

14.) Why is everyone so angry about Shonda Rhimes not wanting to get married? It's her choice. If you want to marry, go ahead. If you don't, good for you too.

15.) Some folks just want to feel validated because they got married. Okay boo, your choices are valid too.

16) Whenever you want to lose hope in humanity, just visit the comment section of a HONY post. No other place or situation have I seen people share in the joys and pains of complete strangers. Let that be a reminder that for the most part, there are good people in this world. Brandon Stanton; changing the world...one picture at a time :-)

Sunday Funday

Bringing some cheer and good vibes your way, especially with everything going on around the world. May the souls of everyone we have lost to terrorism and insurgency rest in perfect peace.

later that night
I held an atlas in my lap
ran my fingers across the
whole world
and whispered
where does it hurt?

it answered
–Warsan Shire


Friday Reflections: #PrayforParis

1.) I just read the breaking news on Paris. What is wrong with the world? Does anyone know

2.) My heart is so broken...I can't comprehend how people become so despicable.

3.) Please do NOT judge an entire religion because of a handful of insane people.

4.) Oh yeah, I asked something on Twitter this evening before the crazy attacks: When we hide pregnancies but put the child all over social media, how does it really work? Do witches only harm fetuses and not children?

5.) Someone needs to answer that.

6.) Uncertainties :-(

7.) Well...well, God has got me. And you too :-)

8.) I don't want to get jaded.