Some Books I Read...

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As you likely know, I like to do something of a dump here if I've missed several months of Book of the Month. So without much ado, here are some books I've recently read.





The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins: This is one of those life changing books, not because it’s revolutionary or telling you something you don’t already know but because it’s reminding you of something so fundamental, so transforming. It was a thrill to read this at the beginning of the year and let it set the pace for  a better life. As with most things for it to work, you have to actually live out its principles. As a [insert all that I am here] it feels necessary for me to say there is a lot in the book about all that’s stopping you from your greatness is just YOU. You just have to do the work. You just have to be willing. You just have to decide. In one of her interviews, she said if you want to make a million dollars in a couple of years and you research the necessary steps, and put in the work then bam there you are. And it’s not so simple. There are systems in place. To be completely transparent, in the same interview she does briefly mention systemic barriers like  student loans and stuff. But you know, I wish there were a bit more emphasis on how unfair and unjust how world can be. When she mentions unfairness, it was more like well sucks but deal with it. I’m somewhere in between on this, but closer to the mindset of we need to work towards a better world rather than if all persons just pull themselves. No. I always say some of the hardest working, most disciplined people are fish sellers or marketwomen in Lagos. Those women leave home at the crack of dawn and may not be back till God knows when. And yet. And yet. But with the relational bit, I think this book is perfect. It’s so freeing. I love it. When it comes down to it, no matter what you do or how you do it people will judge you, they will say all sorts. LET THEM. As long as you get yourself stay true to yourself and to your values.


Spectacular Things by Beck Dorey-Stein: what a lovely and moving book. It was just such a meaningful story of getting to watch these girls grow. It’s also a story of triumph in the face of adversity. I really liked the approach to love. Defying this idea of one great romantic love and reminding us that sometimes that our great love is encompassing of many little loves, and sometimes our great love is great precisely because of how ordinary it is. The book starts with a ridiculous, entitled request. At at the end, I still think it was a bit of an entitled ask. But what do I know. I’m a sucker for family stories and celebration of family love and this one, this one was IT. 


Buy What You Love Without Going Broke by Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni: I randomly saw this at a bookstore and I am a sucker for all things personal finance so I got it. I think it's pretty relatable and a simple and quick read. But for the most part, nothing I didn't already know. There is a whole lot on the psychology of money and spending that could be very important for someone trying to get their money act together. So, as I'm always on a all my girlies get your money together campaign, I must suggest you read this or other personal finance book.


James by Percival Everett: I already wrote extensively about what makes this a fine book and then I lost the file. And now I no longer feel like doing a deep dive. I will say I don’t do slave movies or slave books; I mean I will read history but usually when the story of enslaved peoples is told for the gratification and enjoyment of all, I like to stay away. So, at first I wasn’t quite interested in this. But then it won a Pulitzer and it got all the rave and I was tempted. Unlike most other slavery movies and books, this was gives a lot of agency to Jim, the protagonist. The novel itself is a brilliant retelling of The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn. It tells the story of Jim, an enslaved man, who when he overhears he is about to be sold to a man in New Orleans and separated from his family forever decides to hide nearby. At the same time, Huck Finn has faked his own death to escape his violent father. The two of them then embark on a journey by raft down the Mississippi River  towards the Free States. When I started this book, I recognized it for the genius that it was. There was a heart to it that kept you going. I loved the examination of language itself as a tool and as a theme. That said, about 75% into it, it just stopped being it. While this isn’t the usual trauma porn, it does depict a lot of the heartbreaking woes of slavery. I didn’t end with the same enthusiasm I started with but this is certainly a classic. And oh, there is absolutely nothing funny about this book so I’m not sure why it’s being described as “ferociously funny.”


The Message by Ta-Nehisi Coates: what a book! I think this man is one of the most clever persons out there, period. A great public intellectual of our time, Coates presents three essays exploring race, history, and conflict tied to his journeys to Senegal, South Carolina, and Palestine. I can’t do this book enough justice, but when I describe Coats as one of the most important writers of our time, I am not exaggerating one bit. In Senegal, he shows the lingering effects of colonialism and American chattel slavery … In South Carolina, he reports on his own book banning, the poisonous conservative reforms to education and their plans to eliminate conversations on race, and shows so visibly the possibilities that emerge when ordinary people say “enough.” In Palestine, his recounting of the perverse injustice breaks your heart over and over. The thing about Coates that is so admirable is he doesn’t equivocate. He takes a courageous and bold stance through ti all. I’ve always envied and admired how clear he was in his morality.


Mania by Lionel Shriver: I want to start making a note of how I came about a book that piqued my interest. Because I cannot imagine reading the blurb of this and going ahead with it. It’s somewhat of a dystopian novel (I guess?) that depicts a world where it’s now offensive to consider anyone more intelligent than the other, leading to the elimination of tests, grades, and merit-based systems altogether. It wasn’t till the end I realized ok this is an author with an agenda. Basically, this is supposed to be a critique of cancel culture or so-called “culture wars”?? It fell flat. I know it is “fantasy” but the premise just makes absolutely no sense to me. The protagonist went on a drivel. I just. It should have been an essay, a short story, a novella. Anything but. What an exhausting novel.  This was different but not necessarily in a good way. It was just wildly over the top, excessively long, and grossly pedantic.

Good Morning Monster by Catherine Gildiner: in this non-fiction book , a therapist shares stories of four of her patients who overcome severe trauma, abuse, neglect, and addiction through therapy. It’s meant to be this behind-the-scenes perspective of therapy and my God, is this heart wrenching. It’s not unlike Lori Gotlieb’s Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. That said, whereas Gotlieb kind of draws us in and teaches us, the reader, how we navigate our own lives, this one tethers on the dangerous line of trauma porn. It was a lot. That said, when it comes to the actual storytelling, what a gripping book. I was hooked from beginning to the end. Would I recommend? Yes. But get ready, trigger warnings for days. 


Standard Deviation by Katherine Heiny: This book is my happy place. I've read it so many times lol. And I will still read it so many times. I love it so much. 


Theo of Golden by Allen Levi: Sometimes, I wonder if I'm just so cold and cynical because the things that were designed to move people but just don't move me concern me. This book is one of such. I do think it was quite a lovely idea behind the book. It was supposed to be a feel good book but it just was overly sentimental to me. It was too unconvincing. Perhaps I'm just cynical? I did not have any patience for it and quite frankly it went on for too long. What is "it" exactly? Well, it's the story of a stranger, named Theo, who arrives at a small town in Georgia and starts a campaign of generosity by buying portraits from a local coffee shop and bestowing them to their subjects. Hmmph okay. I will say it was a book of friendships, love, generosity, kindness, and God knows we are severely missing all those in our society today. Many people describe it as heartwarming, a delight, the perfect book, beautifully written. Just know that I am not many people. I think it was too neatly tied, too idealistic, too this, too that. But that's just me. It broke so many rules of publishing and writing that in itself, it is a miracle. The story of how the book came to be is far more interesting to me than the story in the book itself. Even the writing itself, I wasn't so sure about. For instance, the author would want to reveal a great detail but take soooo long to get to it, such unwinding path but by the time he gets there you are like ughh. There was an urge to explain every single thing. There were also some particularly odd stereotypes about Black people that sat wrongly with me, but I'm likely being too much. And despite everything, I still would recommend this book! I'm truly inspired by Allen Levi and I want everyone to partake of his aura. 


There were some nonfiction, pretty much academic, books in the mix but why bore you with those? So I left them out.


Alright, that's about it folks. Summer is in full force. I hope it's bringing you good tidings. 


Till the next one.

Love,

I

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